Payday Loans or Parents: Who Do I Ask for Money?

Published

May 15, 2018

Gerri Detweiler focuses on helping people understand their credit and debt, and writes about those issues, as well as financial legislation, budgeting, debt recovery and savings strategies. She is also the co-author of Debt Collection Answers: How to Use Debt Collection Laws to Protect Your Rights, and Reduce Stress: Real-Life Solutions for Solving Your Credit Crisis as well as host of TalkCreditRadio.com.

A new survey suggests that for Americans, telling families that we need a loan is just about the last thing we want to do. That choice (at 8%) trailed far behind the favored options — credit card debt (34%), a bank loan (21%) or a payday loan (19%). The study, conducted by coupon website Vouchercloud, involved 2,437 American adults.

Seventy-nine percent said that they had, at some point, “needed to borrow a sum of money over $100” (excluding mortgage and education loans). Pride was cited as one of the big reasons asking family was seen as a last resort. It’s easy to imagine a sense of independence and not wanting to burden family members; it’s one thing to ask to borrow the car keys when you’re in high school and quite another to go to a parent when you need to finance a vehicle as an adult.

Still, Americans were more than twice as likely to prefer dealing with a payday lender to telling friends and family they need money. A payday lender is less likely to offer flexible terms and reasonable (or no) interest than a friend or relative. Plus, if you don’t make payments on a payday loan, it could be sent to a debt collector and leave a negative mark on your credit report.

Borrowing from family and friends can be difficult, since you often don’t want to complicate a positive, valuable relationship. Here are a few tips on how to lay ground rules that can protect both the borrower and the lender when you’re getting a loan from a close friend or family member. It may seem more formal and awkward to discuss this beforehand, but it can be important to establish rules before money changes hands.

Payday loans are appealing to many because they don’t require a credit check. However, if you’re going to borrow money using a credit card or bank loan, the terms will almost certainly depend on what kind of credit score you have. In general, people with the highest scores get the lowest interest rates. So it’s a good idea to know how lenders are going to see you when you apply for credit. (It’s a good idea anyway; monitoring your credit can tip you off to fraud, among other things.) You can get your credit report for free once a year from each of the three major credit bureaus, and you can get two free credit scores each month — with an explanation of why they are what they are — from Credit.com.

That way, if you need to borrow money (emergencies happen), the option is available to you.